You're Not Doing The Holidays Wrong:
A Gentle Guide for Grief, Gatherings, and the Days After
Does the thought of holiday gatherings leave you feeling tender, tired, and out of place?
You are not alone. When you're carrying grief, the holidays can feel like a performance you didn't audition for. The pressure to be joyful is overwhelming, and the memory of who—or what—is missing can make every tradition ache.
You might be wondering:
How do I answer 'How are you?' without breaking down?
How can I possibly sit through a meal when my heart is so heavy?
What if I need to leave early? Will I ruin it for everyone?
Is it wrong that I just want to skip it all?
You are not failing at the holidays. Grief changes how the light lands on the room.
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You're Not Doing The Holidays Wrong Guide & Prep Plan.
This isn't a list of cheesy, quick-fix tips. It's a gentle hand on your back—a practical, compassionate, and step-by-step system to help you navigate the emotional landscape of the season with intention and self-kindness.
Think of it as your trusted friend, your personal planner, and your quiet sanctuary, all in one downloadable PDF.
PART 1: PERMISSION & PREPARATION
* Myth-Busting Truths: Reframe the pressure to perform joy and release the "shoulds."
* The 7-Day Prep Plan: A manageable, day-by-day checklist to prepare your heart and energy levels.
* Energy Accounting Worksheet: Identify what gives you energy and what drains you, right now.
* Your Escape Plan: Pre-written scripts to leave early, code words for your "anchor" person, and logistics so you can leave with care, not apology.
PART 2: NAVIGATING THE DAY
* Scripts for "How are you?": Choose from honest, gentle, and boundaried responses for any situation (work, family, kids).
* The Silent Ritual: Discreet ways to honor a missing loved one during the gathering.
* The 5-Minute Reset: A step-by-step bathroom stall practice to calm your nervous system when you're overwhelmed.
PART 3: TENDING THE AFTERMATH
* Gentle Unwinding Protocol: A kind process to release emotional energy within 12 hours of the event.
* After-Event Debrief Worksheet: Reflect on what helped, what hurt, and plan for next time.
* The 48-Hour Care Plan: Commit to small, nourishing acts of rest and connection to replenish yourself.
* A Letter For You: A guided self-compassion practice to process your experience with kindness.
BONUS: The Simple Sanctuary
* Instructions to create a small, safe space at home for daily 10-minute resets.
This Guide is For You If...
You are grieving the loss of a loved one.
You are navigating a difficult family dynamic or divorce.
You're feeling isolated or anxious in social situations.
You're emotionally exhausted and your capacity is low.
You want to honor your feelings without feeling like a burden.
You need practical tools, not just platitudes.
Your Permission Slip to Prioritize Your Peace
You deserve a holiday season that doesn't leave you depleted. This guide gives you the framework to protect your energy and honor your heart.
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FAQs: You Might Be Wondering...
Is this therapy or medical advice?
No. This guide is a compassionate, practical tool for emotional and mental well-being. It is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. We always encourage you to reach out to licensed professionals if you are in acute distress.
I'm not grieving a death, but another kind of loss. Is this for me?
Absolutely. Grief shows up in many forms—the end of a relationship, a health diagnosis, the loss of a job, or the life you thought you'd have. This guide is for anyone feeling the weight of absence during the holidays.
The holidays have already started. Is it too late?
It's not too late. The guide is designed to be useful whether you have a week to prepare or are reading it the morning of an event. The tools for the day-of and the aftermath will be invaluable whenever you start.
What's the format?
You will receive a beautifully designed, 15-page PDF file. You can view it on your phone, tablet, or computer, and print it if you prefer a physical copy to write on.
Give Yourself the Gift of Groundedness This Season.
Stop white-knuckling your way through the holidays. You have permission to do this differently.
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P.S. Remember, choosing your capacity is healing. This guide is that choice, made practical and kind. You don't have to figure it out alone.
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